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write anything the jump start kit

Overcome Writers Block -> Free Secret Jump Start Kit

All of my clients use social media to start conversations about their products, and many are blogging.  Blogging is a great way to start a relationship with people who are interested in your area of expertise.  The challenge with blogging is to write regularly and write often (something that I have absolutely been slacking on lately!) 🙂

This morning I decided to get back on the a regular schedule and as I sat staring at my monitor I thought:  “I don’t remember it being this hard to get started”  then….  I also remembered an exercise that I had learned a year or so ago that has helped me jump start my writing in the past.

It’s a tool that every elementary school teacher is aware of… but as normal humans we forget:  A Timed Exercise.

You see, there’s something about having a time limit that really forces your logical brain to dig deep and let your unconscious, intuitive brain fill in the blanks.  It’s like your mind says, “I give up, I can’t think of anything” and hands the baton off to your unconscious brain, (which has been standing at the ready… tired of sitting on the bench… ready to get in there and help the team)

This exercise is about 30 minutes long, and worth every minute.  When you’re done, you’ll have a complete and detailed outline for your next masterpiece! (or maybe even the next two!)


just a mortal with potential of a superman

Your Mindset and You, Perfect Together

Mindset, is an interesting word.  Short for “… set your mind on it” it seems to imply that a “mindset” is a choice of thoughts but the reality of it is that most people aren’t putting any intention into their mindset, they are running mostly on auto-pilot.

Just as we trust our brain to run the body and reflexes we are trusting it to always choose the proper mindset for the occasion.  The issue I have with most mindsets are the lack of potential. The mind set is… well, it’s set.  It’s the mind telling you to relax… it has this.  Your mind knows how you got through the last 25, 45, 55 years and it’s pretty confident that if it keeps doing the same thing, it can get you through another 50.

I have a question.

Is that enough?  Do you just want to experience more of the same, or are you interested in something else?

Human potential is amazing.  And, it’s interesting that when we are engaged in the movement of something from potential to reality we sometimes only believe it’s possible for other people.  We find reasons… or excuses… or blame… or why we can’t be, do or experience awesomeness.

This isn’t going to be popular, but you’re wrong and you’re not alone.

You’re wrong because amazingness is promised to everyone.  Each day that you wake up is a promise.  EVERY SINGLE DAY.

This isn’t a dress rehearsal, there are no do-overs and YOU are the only one that can change what you think, how you do things, and your experience.  You decide.

Yeah, it’s a big responsibility, it’s much easier to blame your parents, neighbors, best friend, sister, ex-husband, ex-wife, war, economy or (my favorite) circumstances beyond your control.  The fact is, you can only and have ever ONLY been able to control you.  ever. period. in the history of your life, the only person’s mind you’ve ever been able to accurately read… is yours.

The trick is to understand that each moment you experience the same thing, you are living in a specific mindset. Knowing that mindset and how it limits you is one of the greatest ways to expand your experiences.  Your self talk is a great indicator of whether the mindset is positive or negative.

Think about an area of your life that you tell yourself you really want success.





Now, the next time you feel like you aren’t experiencing what you want, stop and think.  “What exactly is it that I want?”  Then ask yourself, “What steps did I take to actually achieve what I want?”  and finally, “Is what I want dependent on the behavior, or recognition of someone besides myself?”

Unlock you potential creating new thinking patterns and changing your limiting mindsets.

Have an amazing day



My Tribe we are a creative people

Who is your tribe?

Who is your tribe?

Finally it seems like the conversation is shifting, from “What’s in it for me?” to “How can I help?

It’s been a long slow road to get to the point where our conversations and language are allowing a broader discussion about sales and purchasing and buying and creativity and offers and wealth.  Now, we’re using words like abundance and affluence and mindfulness and a heart centered work environment is no longer exclusively “for women.”

I’ll be honest, when I started my coaching business my primary focus was to help women entrepreneurs.  WHY?  Because the women entrepreneurs that want help USUALLY aren’t the pushy aggressive, pitchy and salesy type.  They are the ones that got into the business to change lives.  Their own and those that they serve.  These women have always felt uncomfortable with the sales paradigm of “always having something to sell” and reject the modus operandi of the Door to Door salesman by constructing their “elevator pitch.”  However, the “if you build it, they will come” doesn’t always work either.

The pushy, pitchy salesy crowd are a boisterous bunch, they are great fun at a party… but not so much on the phone.  However, I respect that part of them that makes the cold call.  I wouldn’t want to do it.  So, I’m always kind, however insistent that I don’t want to change my energy provider, phone service, car insurance or buy a new vehicle warranty.  The problem is, they aren’t offering me anything that I’m interested in buying.  I’m not in their target market.  These cold calls are a shot in the dark.

The good news is, the tides are changing and there’s more talk about “social sales“…  and less about cold calls.  My people, the “how can I help” people are finally invited to take part in a sales conversation.  AND as it turns out, We are uniquely positioned to turn our conversations into sales… I help my clients know how.  I am among the few that are teaching this tribe of amazing and creative entreprenuers how to get the message out and let people know your service is available AND valuable.

Your expertise, your creativity, your honest genuine and authentic desire to help your clients and customers experience a positive outcome is the ONLY reason you do what you do.  AND finally there are ways to convert your social conversations on Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest and twitter into sales.

Most of my clients struggle with getting paid.  NOT that people wouldn’t pay then, but they so undervalue their worth that in many times they either don’t charge enough, or anything at all.  I tell them this quote I read recently, “You can not be a light if you can’t pay your light bill.”  AND there is no trick to earning a 6 figure income doing what you love, but there are some secrets.

I’ll let you in on 2 secrets today:


If I told you that I would hand you $50,000.00 today and every 3 months, would you want it?  I mean, think about how that money would change your life.  “Wait!” you say, “You always say money isn’t the goal” … Correct.  So, I want you to imagine your life with that much money. $50,000.00 every 3 months.  Imagine the freedom.  The joy, the happiness.  Never having to check your bank account before paying the electric bill, or wondering where the car payment is going to come from.  Imagine the easy way that you schedule vacations in the summer, imagine the time freedom to volunteer in the community.

See, money is the tool.  The GOAL is freedom.  Think about all of those things that you will do when you have built your My Tribe we are a creative peoplecompany in a way that provides you with recurring payments.  No longer only getting paid for your time, you have created products and services or perhaps a membership or events that provide you with the money (aka the tools) to live the life of your dreams.  THAT is the first secret. Understand your true goal.

Too many people have flimsy or unspecific goals that end in money.

“I want to make more money”

“I just want to make enough to quit my job”

“I just want to make enough to work part time”

I am suggesting that you tap into your hearts desire and truly imagine the life you will lead when you are successful.  Don’t think about the HOW you will get there, just imagine you THERE!  Having the abundance of time, energy and finances to live freely and love unencumbered.


Probably the most important thing about being successful is to find that circle of people who have the same language for things, beliefs and dreams.  Think about it.  How much easier for you to succeed when you can talk to people you connect with, who can see your vision and believe in the possibilities?  You are an expert and need to surround yourself with people that know your value, that share your opinion of your value.

I say you are an expert because whether you know it or not, you are.  I have a friend that is the QUEEN of organization.  She can literally come into a room and a short time later, it’s like a brand new house.  But alas, she thinks, “anyone can do that.”  Truth be told, I’m a bit of a messy person… ok, ok, I’m a full on messy person, with a very HIGH THRESHOLD for mess.  It has to get pretty bad for me to stop just walking by and start the cleaning process.   My friend has a few tips that have really helped.  Things I can do every day, to eliminate the HUGE cleaning job that needs to get done once a week. (ok ok bi-weekly)

My friend is a lovely person and I adore her, but she’s not really in my tribe.  Yes, she’s an expert, but she doesn’t share my vision.  I have had MANY conversations with her and tried to convince her to move forward and step into a business and claim her expertise and help others AND GET PAID for helping… but she refuses.  And, I can’t make her.  It’s not my job to MAKE her do anything.  It’s my job to introduce her to the possibility and if she wants help… well, then… that’s more of what I do.

So, I have a lot of friends that aren’t in my tribe.  That doesn’t make them less valuable to me as friends… but I wouldn’t invite them to a workshop or product party, they just aren’t people interested in those possibilities.

My tribe are those heart centered entrepreneurs that feel driven to make a difference in the lives of the people they serve.  THOSE people speak to my heart and it’s THOSE people I connect with and help shape their businesses.  Some people just want a part time job, and others want something more.   I love my work with members of my tribe as we map out the steps to their success and I watch them design the life of their dream.  That… fills my heart.  That is what I’m meant to do.  And it’s within this great circle of people that I find incentive, encouragement and energy to continue my own journey to success.

What does your tribe look like?  I’d love to hear from you.  Email me at info@wendaoneill.com




Happiness as a goal

Everyone is different, from the way we look to the words we use to describe our lives.  It’s not just that we are looking at ourselves from the inside out, but that we are also very aware of what we think, we think other people think.  Our actual experience is molded by the way that we think about our experience.  That’s why it seems so easy for others to view your life and say things like, “You have it good” or “If only I had what you had.”  They don’t know, how could they?

The fact is, what “they” know or don’t know should have very little space in your head.

To be genuine, to be authentic, you must be you.  You must spend more time looking in the mirror and finding the things that you like about what you see.  You must spend more time looking at the world and finding the things that you like about your experience.  Your attention to detail is the precursor to your internal conversation.  That conversation is the evidence of your success.

Happiness is not a thing.  It isn’t the summer beach, with the sound of waves and children playing, with the smell of suntan lotion and salt water.  Happiness isn’t the relaxed feeling of sleepiness as you dog-ear the page of the latest gothic romance and succumb to the sleepy warmth of the sun as you lay under the beach umbrella. Happiness is not a thing. Happiness is a choice, it’s a decision.

Find happiness where you are now. Choose to select it from the moments that occur without planning or notice.  Look for it in surprising and unusual ways, and experience it without explanation or apology.

Yes, it is easy for me to say.  I don’t know what you’ve been through.  I do know, however, that your attention to an experience brings it into your experience.

Some people view happiness like a frame.  It’s on the outer fringes holding everything else inside, all the pain, aggravation, loss creating a portrait of life wrapped with happiness only touching the outline of the picture.

Some people view happiness like a mud puddle.  It’s part of the big dirty mess, all integrated and indistinguishable from everything else, except occasionally when it gets splashed out by accident by a passing car or child playing.

Some people view happiness like it’s hiding in a field of tall grass.  The search for these people seems easy and hard at the same time.  The grass easily bending underfoot but never releasing the hidden treasure unless you, by some miracle or luck you stumble upon it.

I propose happiness is a choice.  It is the decision to find relief from stress, anxiety, loss, fear and a resolution to look around and FIND a moment or point of attention that you enjoy.  A color, a sound, a feeling, a smell. You have the right to find happiness in surprisingly magnificent ways.  EXERCISE your right to happiness and decide to release your attachment to struggle. Decide that just because it’s harder, doesn’t make it better.  Decide that whether other’s judge your struggle worthy or not, is not the goal.

Happiness is the goal.

You decide.